To Facebook or not to Facebook. That is the question.
January 26, 2009
Do you Facebook? I don't, though I am beginning to think that I'm the last person on Earth – or at least in the First World – that hasn't joined. Of course, that doesn't mean that I'm not on Facebook. I am. But only because I live vicariously through my husband.
I debate myself several times a week about whether I should join, or if it's just another social media notch, another party where many of my friends seem to be. I don't want to join simply because it's the popular thing to do. I want to join because I want to be there. But there's one thing that's holding me back.
For the past several years, I've been trying to get Roger to start a blog, a photoblog, join Twitter, do something in the social media world. And finally -- FINALLY! -- he has. I kind of view Facebook as his play area, a space that's all his own. He's been a member of Facebook for almost a year now, but the boy does almost nothing with his profile (other than join a few groups). He doesn't add pictures (other than the few he added when he set up the account), he doesn't comment often on other people's profiles, he doesn't leave status updates, he's only connected with a few friends. In short, he's a little apathetic. Bullhorn to Roger: I WANT YOU TO BE A LITTLE MORE INVESTED THAN THAT.
I'm torn. Should I set up my own account, or should I conquer his by uploading pictures, updating his status, and leaving comments? I'm sort of already leaving comments from his account, so the second option wouldn't be all that much of a stretch.
So you tell me: join Facebook, or keep playing with Roger's account?



Comments
I'd go ahead and join. I did years ago because it was the only way of keeping in touch with my sister. Plus, if you don't like it, you can always delete the account.
I play Scrabble on Facebook. Weeeeeeee! for Scrabble. Very addictive.
Posted by: Deals | January 26, 2009 11:31 AM
Okay - I RELUCTANTLY joined Facebook. VERY RELUCTANTLY. I find that sometimes, it just stresses me out...between blogging, and Twitter, LinkedIn and that - I get overwhelmed. But I think part of that has to do with the face that I don't know how to use the freaking thing either! I think I'm too old! LOL! I logged in once after not looking at it for a month and I had like all these fruits and ornaments and green things given to to me by my friends and I didn't even know what the significance of the damn things were!
Anyway, it seems like a great media tool, but email works pretty good for me too. Mybe if I were more organized I could really enjoy it.
Posted by: TUWABVB | January 26, 2009 11:32 AM
I say join, because you can find lots of people you've lost touch with on Facebook, so it's fun that way.
There are actually applications you install on Facebook that would feed your Flickr and Twitter accounts into Facebook. That is what I do - I refuse to update my status on BOTH Twitter and Facebook, and I am not going to upload photos to both places either. But once I hooked up the feeds, it looks like I post to both places when I only post to one...if that makes sense.
Posted by: Jenny B | January 26, 2009 12:10 PM
Join.
I'm on it...we could be facebook friends!
Aside from that, I had a facebook account for over a year and barely used it until I began working with teens at church. Then I HAD to be on it more and now it's my #1 go to site. I keep in touch with friends from high school and college and friends who have moved around the world.
I learn of relationships starting and ending, of friends having babies, of people who are sick or having surgery.
I too get tons of fruits/hugs/causes/best friends/top friends, etc. items. I ignore them.
I do play Word Twist and Scrabble on Facebook and yes, it's addictive.
I appreciate that it's put me back in touch with old friends and let me be in daily touch with my church teens!
There. My essay on "why you should join facebook" is done.
Posted by: sunny | January 26, 2009 01:13 PM
Come on feel the pressure and join! Deals! I wanna play Scrabble with you!! I play that and Word Scraper!!! look me up! Holly Morris Shook!
Posted by: Holly Shook | January 26, 2009 01:26 PM
Create your own account! Scuba finds it very oogie when "Roger" tells him he likes his hair. At the very least change the picture to one that includes both of you, it's hard to imagine your voice when seeing Roger's face. BTW - I am not on facebook either, except for my ghost account which I use to monitor Scuba's postings.
Posted by: Erica | January 26, 2009 03:20 PM
Facebook is creepy. I joined when I got an email from my high school BFF and got all these weirdo requests from people that I'd gone to elementary and middle school with. People I didn't even like then and sure as heck don't like now. Even worse, there was a group for my middle school, and smack dab on the front page was some random picture of (incredibly awkward and totally uncomfortable and god, what was I thinking with that hair!?!?) me and four other girls.
Then I spent an hour or two looking at profiles from people I'd gone to school with, laughing at the ones who'd ended up unpleasant-looking and rolling my eyes about that one popular girl who is STILL perfect, ugh, and being really confused about an opposites-attract couple that ended up married straight out of high school with 2 kids before they're 21.
In short, I deemed the potential creepiness factor too high to risk it and closed my account. However, since you're technically already on there, just playing around with someone else's account, you are already facing the potential creepiness. So you might as well.
Posted by: brista | January 26, 2009 03:56 PM
I haven't joined. I'm resisting. I really don't want to hear from people I haven't heard from since high school or college -- especially if I didn't like them then or hang out with them.
Posted by: Dingo | January 26, 2009 04:13 PM
Well, if you're going to play around with it anyway, you might as well get your own account. You can always help Roger out by uploading your own photos of him and tagging him in them, so they'll show up in his photos :)
Posted by: Laura | January 26, 2009 04:55 PM
I enjoy Facebook quite a bit, particularly since they added more commenting functionality. It's a fun, low-pressure way to keep track of what a lot of friends are doing (and I limit my Facebook friends to people I actually know).
Posted by: Average Jane | January 26, 2009 05:00 PM
Facebook is becoming as necessary as email. It is pretty useless to be a holdout at this point.
Posted by: Suebob | January 26, 2009 09:47 PM
Join! It's fabulously fun plus we can be facebook friends. :)
Posted by: Ki | January 27, 2009 06:00 AM
Come to the dark side: we have cookies. ;)
I like that I can customize my privacy settings on facebook to the point that the only people who can find me are those I've already added to my friends list -- I don't *have* to worry about requests from people I'm not interested in being in touch with.
Another thought, if you're worried about mixing personal and pleasure: I have a facebook account as "Chibi" and one as myself.
Posted by: Chibi Jeebs | January 27, 2009 12:51 PM
Join!! ... then we can be Facebook friends, too! :)
Posted by: Lisa | January 28, 2009 07:01 PM
Ok, since my opinion is the ONLY one that matters - let me give it to you: DON'T JOIN! It's way too much fun seeing your hubby "commenting" on things only to find the familiar "-jes" after each one. I love it! At first it WAS creepy getting comments from him, but now that you're signing your name to him - I think it's fun. Live vicariously through him and move on!
Posted by: beyonka | January 31, 2009 05:18 PM
Join girl - I did. And you know I was holding out. Why did I cave? I couldn't see all the pics of everyone's babies. They would only post them on facebook, and I was the only one who didn't have an account, so why would anyone upload ALL of their pictures to a separate site just for me?? So, now I have one, but one suggestions. AS SOON as you sign up, set your privacy and search settings. I left mine untouched for ONE DAY and started hearing from folks from high school. No thanks. I'd rather NOT revisit those times...
Posted by: Nicolle | February 4, 2009 12:13 PM