For my husband, parents, siblings, in-laws and friends: Me, In a Nutshell
(And for your reading enjoyment, now including pretty charts.) Also, really, really long.
December 21, 2005
This morning I attended a seminar at work entitled, "Your communication patterns & style w/ "lunch to die for"."
Number One: I am not surprised by my communication patterns.
Number Two: I am not surprised by my communication style.
Number Three: I would never die for that lunch.
In an effort to unify our team, my company paid for us each of us to take a personality exam. I read through twenty two questions involving four definitions each and marked the definition with which I most and least identified. Example:
Word - Definition
Playful - has fun meeting goals and creates an exciting working environment
Determined - achieves goals despite all obstacles and distractions - LEAST
Relaxed - whether a certain goal is met will not affect your disposition - MOST
Methodical - approach goals in a manner that is systematic, orderly, precise
(These questions were hard for me, because I had to rationalize them:
Do I have fun meeting my goals? Do I create an exciting work environment? No. Do I approach goals systematically? Sometimes. Am I determined to achieve goals despite ALL obstacles and distractions? The word "all" is a qualifier for me. Naturally, the answer is No. If something doesn't get done, will I get fussy about it? Not usually. If it is absolutely necessary for it to get done, it will. I am not task-driven. I am deadline-driven.)
Okay, so those words weren't put in a series together, and I made up the definitions. You get the point. I took the test, and this is what it revealed about me:
I am Expressive / Analytical. This means:
Expressive
I naturally exhibit high-assertive and high-responsive behaviors. I communicate assertively and am more open in my gestures and expressions than the other patterns. I am very people-oriented. I desire a clean and open show of understanding by both sides in communication, and I use persuasion and exaggerated body movements to promote that understanding. (And right now, I'm laughing, because JUST LAST NIGHT Roger got frustrated by me spitting *something* out of my mouth in my own show of frustration. That *something* is a blog of its own.) I am recognized as being energetic, emotional, opinionated, sometimes loud, always ready to take risks and volunteer, playful, fun-loving, I dislike routine and may appear unfocused on my work.
Analytical
I like to get the job to get done right the first time. I focus on facts and details, and can be reserved and controlled in my outward gestures and actions (this is only true at work - not in my personal life).
That's about all from the Analytical results that applies to me. The rest is in direct opposition to my Expressive side, and untrue of how I naturally operate (example: I'm not more concerned with information than with people; I am not always cautious when making decisions; I am not always disciplined with my use of time; I NEVER appear detached from my emotions. I mean, HELLO - are we talking about the same person here?)
How I perceive myself:
How I See Me
How others perceive me:
How Others See Me
How I behave at work:
How I Work
The results also gave a complete listing of phrases that uncannily define me. I have chose a few to share with you:
Things to tell me:
-we need to stay on task
-give me the big picture, and later supply the details when I ask for them
Things to remember when working/being around me:
-if you delegate a task to me, let it go; allow others have a chance to succeed
-tell me when you're thinking out loud
Priorities:
-Maintaining good relationships
-People first, tasks second
-Giving advice and counsel
Follow through:
-Considers facts before proceeding
-May become sidetracked
-May need verbal encouragement to meet deadlines
Conflict Resolution:
-Offers indirect suggestions
-Will hold a grudge when unsatisfied with the outcome
-Tries to avoid damaging relationships
Decision Making:
-Makes suggestions, not demands
-Likes time to make decisions
-Indecisive on marginal issues
Motivations:
-Doing fun tasks
-Receiving public recognition
-Receiving sincere private recognition
Handling Discipline:
-Does not like harsh accusations
-Hates public correction
-Justifies actions
Potential Difficulties (that are phrased so nicely):
-May be prone to making impulsive decisions based on feelings
-Might experience remorse over poor decisions made this way
-Might become conflicted between aggressive and passive approaches; may seem erratic for choosing one or the other
Behavior at Work:
-Group-oriented
-Organizes and implements strategies
-Makes tasks fun for everyone
Things to Work On:
-volunteering for too much and/or too difficult tasks (Roger calls this "climbing every mountain")
-focusing on tasks
-inability to motivate and discipline (yes, and yes.)
See? Wasn't that as interesting for you to read as it was for me? Aren't you dripping with excitement to know more? Don't you wish I'd post the full 18-page report online? Do you feel fully prepared to handle me and understand me now?
Yes? Good.


